Wednesday, December 17, 2008
There is no question about it...I LOVE SWAPS!.....I love being paired with a partner, putting together a lovely box specifically for her & sending it off!......and then of course, it is equally wonderful to be on the receiving end......hearing the UPS man screech on his brakes, run up the walk & hand me a much anticipated "swap box"!
Feeling this way, a few months ago I decided to begin my own series of "Very Vintage" swaps. The "Very Vintage Halloween Swap" was first, which was followed by the "Very Vintage Christmas Swap"..... & now we are looking forward to the "Very Vintage Valentine Swap" as well. I so enjoy hosting these & will certainly continue to do so,..... as long as I have interested ladies who wish to participate!.....After all,... "you all" make it possible! :)
Since beginning the swaps, I have met some of the nicest women ever!....Ladies who have become & will continue to be dear friends!......With well over a 100+ ladies joining me in the last two swaps, I am overwhelmed with the thoughtfulness & kindness you have shown me & your partners! I cannot "thank you " all enough!.....You all make "hostessing" such a pleasure!
With this said, there is another "point" to this post.... one that I am extremely serious about......When I announce a swap, I am expecting you to "follow through". I am trusting you....I am assuming that you would not be signing up unless you wish to participate thoroughly. I also am a reasonable women....realizing that sometimes "life happens"....forcing you to be need a bit more time or in some cases completely drop out of the swap. I understand this. And I have asked repeatedly, if you find yourself in this circumstance, than to PLEASE let me or your partner know immediately.
This is where I will admit,.... I am getting very upset! In the last days of my most recent swap...the "Very Vintage Christmas Swap"...I have been getting e-mails from wonderful ladies who have done what they were supposed to...putting together lovely boxes for their partners, sending them off & NEVER HEARING A WORD & NEVER RECEIVING A SWAP BOX BACK!!!! It would be an understatement for me to say I am MAD!....I'm not mad,... I am FURIOUS! ...In this economy, when money is tight, & at this time of year when we are all busy, I think this behavior is especially DEPLORABLE!!!...It's Christmas time for heaven's sake!!!!???....I am hearing stories of of ladies who sent their boxes off (with confirmation slips),.... know their partner has received it,... e-mailed several times with absolutely NO RESPONSE...& all the while their partner continues to post on her blog!!???....The "nerve"!!!?...To me this is incredibly disrespectful & quite simply "dishonest"!......It also seems to be happening much more to ladies who do not have blogs!....Blog or not, your partner deserves respect!.....This "blogging community" we all love is made up of wonderful people, but a few of you are really making us all look bad! So shape up! Be responsible!
I will get off my "soapbox" now....& I regret having to say this,.... however, I must.....With every e-mail of a lady being "stood up", I politely try & " get ahold of/ e-mail" the partner in question. I also leave comments on their blog. Sometimes, I get a response back & everything turns out just fine (which I appreciate!) .....But most of the time I never hear from the person????....They just disappear, leaving their responsible partner with nothing....no box & no explanation....I am just letting you all know I will simply not put up with this in my swaps!...Please let me know if this is happening to you!....I am keeping a "list", ...yes a list of ladies who are NOT following through & are leaving their partners "stranded", I have that list right next to my computer. I know who you are!....Unless you get ahold of me immediately, with a good explanation...you will NO LONGER BE WELCOME in any of my future swaps!!!!!.....In my frustration, I have even considered posting names, but will try & be a "lady" & refrain from that...but please don't push me!......In closing,... Iwill continue hosting swaps that I hope you all will enjoy!.....All I ask is to please communicate with me & your partner,.... & be honest. I want my swaps to be enjoyable for everyone.....I wish you all a Very Merry Christmas!.....& hope to see you all in my "Very Vintage Valentine Swap"!!!........Your friend, Heidi XO
P.S. For your information....I too seem to have been left stranded?...can you imagine "standing up the hostess"????? :)